Yesterday we read a large section from the Sermon on the Mount. It was too large, in fact, to adequately comment on all of it. Normally I take this in stride, but yesterday’s text makes that a bit harder. Yesterday we read Jesus’ words on divorce from the Sermon on the Mount, namely, that anyone who divorces his wife makes her commit adultery and whoever marries a woman who has been divorced commits adultery. I think this needs to be commented on for three reasons.
First, divorce causes a lot of pain and guilt for everyone involved. I have heard David Gravelly (a local divorce lawyer) say that the best divorce is terrible, and it only gets worse from there. Second, culturally we have tried to salve the pain caused by divorce by minimalizing it. From no fault divorce laws to sitcoms that treat divorce like its just a small hiccup that you have to get over in order to move on with your life after your relationship has lost its passion, the cultural megaphone proclaims that divorce is no big deal. In reality, divorce is not only a big deal morally, but it causes untold pain for everyone involved no matter how far gone the marriage was in the first place. Finally, I know many many Christians who have been through divorces whether before they came to faith or after. Reading these texts can make them feel like they are unforgivable. More than that, if they have remarried or desire to remarry, they don’t know how to handle Jesus’ words without feeling eternally guilty. To add on to these cultural grapplings with divorce, most Christian denominations have either handled divorce with kid gloves or boxing gloves. They either affirm unconditionally anyone who has gone through the pain of divorce without confrontation for their own sinfulness, or they treat them as if they have, in fact, committed the unforgivable sin. I want to try and walk between these to positions by confronting divorce with what I believe is the truth, but provide hope and comfort from the Gospel. If, therefore, you are divorced and while reading this you find something hard to swallow, I would encourage you to finish reading the whole article.
It is my desire that we will begin to think more consciously about divorce, and I think the place to start is with Jesus Himself. Like I said, yesterday we read Matthew 5:31-32, where He says, “It was also said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.” Now, in order to understand this text, we need to look at two things. First, we need to look at the background of what Jesus is saying. Second, we need to read everything Jesus has said about divorce.
So, what is the background of Jesus’ statement here on divorce? Well, Jesus is entering into what was a cultural, moral, and religious debate in his day. While divorce is mentioned in the Old Testament law, it is only dealt with casuistically. In other words, the Law only deals with situations that arise from divorce, it doesn’t talk deal with the particulars of divorce itself. It doesn’t answer the questions of what are permissible grounds for divorce, who gets the kids, etc.. So, Bible scholars were left to infer the answers to these questions from the scattered references to divorce. (more…)